Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts
Friday, March 3, 2017
Friday, February 10, 2017
FIRST IN MY NEW ALASKA SERIES in a GREAT ANTHOLOGY COMING OUT NEXT WEEK
FIRST IN MY NEW ALASKA SERIES
in a
GREAT ANTHOLOGY
COMING OUT NEXT WEEK
I know, I have been promising to start this series for several...dozen... moons...BUT The first is in an incredible New Anthology. I have been given the incredible privilege of joining with the most incredible group of Writers to create this book.
The Anthology with Twelve Exciting Authors
SWEET TOWN LOVE
This collection of a dozen wonderfully sweet love stories from USA Today and bestselling romance authors will warm your heart. Each story in this anthology will take you on a journey that reminds you how it feels to take the chance and how sweet it is to fall in love with the one person who makes your heart flutter. Whether it’s a firefighter who loves to cook, a doctor who loves his family, a small town sheriff, a reunion between high school loves, a second chance to make things right, a man determined to pull a woman from her survival guilt, a chemo-nurse who knows healing takes more than medicine, or a man determined to help a new neighbor feel welcome, every single tale will find these men loving and guiding the women they love to their own happy ever after. This is a perfect collection to curl up with and celebrate the love in our lives.
THE WRIGHT RECIPE by Maggie Ryan
ON THIN ICE by Stevie MacFarlane
FINDING SYDNEY by Adrienne Blake
I BELONG HERE by Misty Malone
ALWAYS YOU by Anna Kristell
LOVE TASK by Vanessa Brooks
SOCK IT TO ME by Rayanna Jamison
MID-WINTER MELT DOWN by Beth Bennett
MOMENTS by Paige Parsons
PIPER IN A PICKLE by Chula Stone
THE ART OF LOVE by Alyssa Bailey
PANTIES ARE NOT OPTIONAL by Georgia St. Claire
Wednesday, January 25, 2017
Tuesday, January 24, 2017
Wednesday, November 2, 2016
She couldn't be happier...until...
Taken by Surprise
by
Shanna Handel
Shanna Handel has come to visit me as she begins the wonderful life of being a published author. Come in and meet her, you will really enjoy the chat. We will be seeing more of her in the near future. If you are looking for heavy erotica, look elsewhere, but if you want HOT LOVE administered to a Naughty wife, you have found your next stop.
Lila’s life is perfect. A successful career in fashion, a sleek, artfully decorated home, and her adoring husband- Luke. Everything is going her way. She couldn’t be happier.
One night while enjoying a few glasses of red wine to unwind after work, she gets a little cheeky with Luke. He takes her by surprise and instead of putting up with her humor, throws her right over his knee for a good, sound spanking. Lila is left confused. She is angry that her husband took the liberty of punishing her, but also finds herself incredibly attracted to Luke’s new, commanding behavior. Despite her conflicting emotions, when he proposes a new way of life- doing things his way for a change, Lila agrees.
A visit to Luke’s hometown only adds to her confusion. She discovers that her outgoing southern-belle sister-in-law, Heather, and her husband have been practicing domestic discipline for years. She also learns that her husband is not shy about spanking her whenever he sees fit.
Life has a few more big surprises in store for Lila. Some are heartbreaking, one will change her life forever. Will it all be too much for Lila and make her revert to her old bossy self? How far is Luke willing to go to convince her that his way is best?
This is a sweet spanking romance, where the heroine takes several trips over her husband's knee.
Publishers note: This book contains elements of domestic discipline and spanking of adult women. If any of these themes offend you, please do not purchase.
Yummy! Excerpt
“Lila,” Luke used his fingers underneath her chin to guide her gaze up to meet his. “I said, do you understand?”
“Yes, sir,” Lila muttered.
Luke raised his eyebrows at her, “I think that you are in need of a reminder spanking.”
Lila gulped, “No, I think I’m good. I really will take better care of myself.” She started to inch away from Luke on the bed.
“I don’t think so. When you are sitting at your office desk at six pm, I want you to have a memory that will get you in the car on time.”
Luke gently guided Lila over his lap. He lifted up her skirts and pulled down her panties.
“Lila, I want you to watch me spank you. Look up.”
Lila looked up, realizing that Luke had positioned her facing the antique, full-length mirror.
She gasped at the scene before her. He looked so handsome and powerful. She was in an incredibly vulnerable position.
Then, as she watched, he spanked every inch of her bottom. She started to squirm.
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I found this first part of the Taken Trilogy to be a page turner. The main two characters are a husband and wife, Luke and Lila, but also the story has many secondary characters that all play a vital role in this tale. This is the voyage into incorporating domestic discipline into their marriage and setting a new tone after a new promotion for Lila was altering control. The story is an excellent example of a loving couple learning the give and take of a relationship and deciding what is the most important issues to keep peace and harmony.
Lila is a very successful in her career in the fashion world. She dresses sharp, had a stunning home, is over lots of people and doing well. But sometimes promotions and power can upset the balance in a marriage. Luke loves his wife, is successful in his restoration of antique vehicles, and is proud of all Lila has accomplished in her career. For her job, he moved from his hometown so she could have this job. He can appreciate her control at work, but she has started to take their relationship for granted and even laughs at Luke and makes unacceptable comments.
One night, pushing to issue too far, a husband telling her he will take her in hand, she laughs, and he shows her he is serious. Was it a fluke, or is this the direction their marriage needs to take? When she pushes it again, he shows her he is serious. Luke talks to Lila that he wants to be Head of Household and wants her to accept and work with him. What starts as a week a vacation, becomes a learning curve for Lila. But when an accident hurts Luke, Lila will learn how precious life is.
Lila may return to their home and her job, while Luke stays with his family to continue with his recovery, but Lila is lost without him and either she is overdoing it at work, not eating and sleeping right and then she isn’t focused. Luke will have to take charge so this couple will continue on a path to happiness.
Shanna Handel Bio
Having the time of my life writing adult books about the things us people crave. I adore every one of my characters and am often lost in their world. When I do come back to reality, I love to spend time outdoors, baking, and hanging with my family. I totally lucked out and married my soulmate. My hope is that you will enjoy my books as much as me!
Sending you lots of love...and spankings, Shanna Handel
Friday, September 30, 2016
“I am crazy”... For Rendered
Susannah Shannon came to Alaska to promote her Newest Book
RENDERED
(The Cass Chronicles Book 3)
by Susannah Shannon
Cass has gone from Chicago to Alaska and now Television called her back to Chicago and she brought Killian with her... of course!
Wanna Lick??
“Note to self, thought Cass, “Spanx don’t protect you from spanks…”
“Cass may be the cook, but Killian wields the wooden spoon.”
If you can’t stand the heat…
Cass and her beloved Killian are in Chicago filming her new cooking show. Being the star of her own TV show does not keep Cass Harper-Nelson from being herself which means she flies by the seat of her (often rather toasty) pants. Her wit and down-to-earth manner has her making new friends and embracing a former enemy when she goes head to head with an adversary from her past.
How does a conflicted, feisty submissive embrace all that life has to offer while dueling with Men’s Rights Activists? Trust her loving husband to make sure the beloved cook learns what happens when you jump out of the frying pan into the fire.
Friends from Slick Trench, Alaska, visit and a new venture is embraced. Rendered features all the love, heat, belly laughs and scrumptious recipes that are a feature of the Cass series.
DISCLAIMER: This book contains the spanking of adult women.
Purchase:
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Susannah Shannon
I live in the American midwest with my family. I write romances that are funny(well, I try). I love the inner conflict of a smart, modern, independent woman who longs to submit to that one special man.
Susannah Shannon
Wanna Bite????
“I am crazy.”
He grinned. “Little bit. But hear this,” he said, putting a finger under her chin. “You're
MY crazy. Mine. Bring me your laptop.”
She was irked by this. She wanted him to make a grand gesture—throw her over his lap
and force her to surrender by setting her bottom on fire. She handed him her laptop like a sulking
child. He did not appreciate this. He turned her and delivered one ferocious swat to her backside.
“Get in that corner. There's no need for discussion at this point.”
She went. He was sexy, she’d give him that. Also an asshole, clueless and bossy. She
could hear him working on the laptop. She leaned her forehead against the wall and felt sorry for
herself. She wondered what he could be doing on it. She was imagining the lecture she had
coming. She'd been a bitch, she’d accused him of being willing to walk away from their
marriage, she’d accused him of oppressing her. The wall was cool on her skin—the wall of their
apartment. Their apartment in Chicago. Where they were for her career. Where Killian had
lovingly brought her. The sob caught in her throat. Her knees buckled and she caught herself
with her hands on the wall. She wasn't sure of the rules. Would she get in trouble for moving?
Killian’s hand was on her shoulder. She hoped he would gather her to him but he did not. He
helped her sink to her knees. He helped support her as she bawled. He kept her in the corner.
“I’m sorry. I’m sorry,” she whispered. “I am just so confused and exhausted.”
“I know,” he said. “I'm going to help you. You stay here, you can sit if you want.” She
shifted to Indian style, fairly certain that all the rule books she had read about would say they were
doing it wrong. She nodded. She would do what he said.
“Now,” his voice was low. “I will always always always,” he rubbed her back as he said
this, “be your husband. No matter what. We will figure out how to do what we need to do, for us.
But…” There was always a “but” she thought ruefully—and it was always hers.
Saturday, August 27, 2016
Quinlan's Quest- O'Connor Series
OUT Tuesday, August 30th
The next installment of the O'Connor Series -Quinlan's Trilogy -Book One
Quinlan's Quest by Alyssa Bailey, is the beginning of the love story of Quinlan O'Connor brother and his lovely lady, Cheyenne.
Here, take a nibble...
Can Cheyenne deal with his high-handed ways and higher expectations in exchange for being his woman?
Cheyenne Sterling was partners with her father in their accounting firm when he passed away suddenly. Now, one year later, Cheyenne has a healthy business and unhealthy lifestyle that is totally out of control. One afternoon control walked in her door in the form of Quinlan O’Connor, rough, handsome, and all alpha male. She couldn't deny that he was very easy to look at, but also couldn't deny that it was proving harder than she expected to fall in line the way he demanded. Then again, Cheyenne truly loved a challenge.
Considered the toughest O’Connor sibling, Quinn is a Sheridan, Wyoming, sheriff’s deputy with peculiar tastes. His brothers have a hint of how domineering Quinn is in his relationships but none knows the depths of his lifestyle. Finding a woman who is strong enough to stand up to him when it is the right thing to do, and woman enough to submit when she should has proven to be an elusive thing for Quinn. It makes his search for a wife a monumental quest.
When doing an errand for his father, he meets spunky Cheyenne Sterling, a young woman who needs a keeper with a firm hand and loving arms. She reveals her wilder side and risky behaviors over a pseudo-business dinner at his parents' home. The next thing he knows, he finds her in a private club he warned her to not attend. In Quinn’s world, there are consequences when a young woman disobeys him.
Will Cheyenne stay around after she experiences his consequences or will she run like the rest?
DISCLAIMER: This book contains the spanking of adult women, elements of erotic play including anal and BDSM. If any of these offend you, please do not purchase this book.
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Excerpt
Quinn pushed through the accounting firm’s outer door taking a moment to remove his sunglasses and adjust to the lighting. He strode over to the person sitting at the front desk digging in a file drawer as he automatically removed his hat.
“Ma’am, I have papers for Mr. Sterling from Emerald Isle Ranch, could you give them to him?”
The woman looked up into bright hazel eyes surrounded by darkly tanned laugh lines as she eased her chair back a bit so that she could take him in more fully. Cheyenne Jamis Sterling, C.J. professionally, stretched out her long legs in a more relaxed manner than she actually felt. She was not a short woman herself but from her vantage point she could appreciate the height and breadth of the deputy. The creation before her was one of God’s beautiful creatures that raised her appreciation in the natural beauty and work of art that could be mankind and raised that admiration quite sharply.
Cheyenne’s cerulean blue eyes were always her proudest feature but as she gazed into brilliant and unusually vivid hazel eyes, she wondered what children with this man would be like. She could also see that he appreciated her as much as she appreciated him. He was not gorgeous in a movie star, woman swooning way but captivating in a virile, blood heating way. She was quite sure that he and men like him created and perpetuated the stereotypical persona of rugged men taming the Wild West.
Cheyenne swung her long blonde hair over her shoulder while she chose her words.
“Mr. Sterling has passed away, but I can take the papers.”
Quinn gave a shocked look and said, “They both died?”
“Excuse me? Who, both?”
“Sterling, senior and junior?”
“There is no junior, Mister…?”
“O’Connor.”
“No, you aren’t Mr. O’Connor, I know him.”
Cheyenne was beginning to be suspicious of this man, but her doubts battled with her initial thoughts of attraction and his uniform.
“Of course I am. I am just not my father, Sean. I am Quinlan. So if there is no junior, then give this to your boss when he returns.”
Cheyenne wasn’t sure whether she should laugh or be angry.
“I don’t have a boss, Mr. O’Connor but I can take the papers for your father.”
“No, I am supposed to leave them for C.J. Sterling and if he isn’t in this office, I’ll just take them back to my father.”
Cheyenne was experiencing that quickly ignited anger she usually tried to control and felt her muscles tighten with the effort in the face of the arrogance of this man.
“Don’t be such a pompous ass. I am C. J. Sterling, Cheyenne Sterling, James’ daughter. I am his accountant. I use C. J. professionally and my friends call me Cheyenne.”
Quinlan's Quest is a novella and the first story of Quinlan and Cheyenne's trilogy of love. Book 2, Accepting his Ways is a novel also out August 30th. Look for them both...
Amazon: https://goo.gl/r9XjXd
Blushing Books: http://goo.gl/nGfLPA
This is a taste of ME:
Alyssa Bailey is a dyed in the wool Texan living in the beauty of Southeast Alaska with her husband, her youngest four (of eleven) children, two dogs and two cats. She lives where the sky meets the mountains, the mountains meet the ocean, and the wildlife frolic on land, sea, and air. People, the ultimate interlopers, are wedged in where allowed and are properly thankful for the privilege.
Her first memory of books was when her mother read to her as a small child. She began writing as soon as she could put letters together to form words. Her first story at the age of six was about a performing horse that ran away from the circus. As she got older and read more of a variety of books, she would say, “I can do better than that” and then rewrite them in her head. She was writing fanfiction before fanfiction was a ‘thing.'
In high school and college, she won journalism and special recognition for her academic and fictional writing. Alyssa is a firm believer in all things spanking. She loves writing about domestic discipline and power exchanges between strong, intelligent women who are not afraid to make a stand and men confident enough to give them their space but Alpha enough to keep his woman safe, in spite of herself. Her characters predominately live in Regency England amongst lords and ladies, in the contemporary realm amongst men and women of the world, and all things Cowboy.
Contact her, she loves to chat, and as always, have a Spankolicious day!
Find Alyssa Bailey online:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alyssabailey.romance
Twitter: @blushingalyssa
Blog/web page: http://alyssabailey.com/
Email: alyssabaileyromance@gmail.com
Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/Alyssa_Bailey
Bookbub: https://www.bookbub.com/authors/alyssa-bailey
Instagram: @alyssabaileyromance
Amazon: https://goo.gl/r9XjXd
Blushing Books: http://goo.gl/nGfLPA
Tumbler: http://alyssawritesromance.tumblr.com/
Saturday, August 20, 2016
Summer Camp Trickery
Guess who has come to visit with me today? Yep, Constance Masters!
With Her newest Book...
Trickery
Morgan King is a 23 year old virgin who has never had a proper boyfriend. The fussy young woman longs to meet a man everything like the heroes in the spanking romance novels she loves to read. When such a man comes along, Morgan is sure that he must be too good to be true and balks at actually meeting him.
Jackson Brooks is a 29 year old middle school teacher who works summers at his family’s summer camp. When he gets to know Morgan on an online dating site, he is sure she’s the girl for him. They are both ready to settle down and he doesn’t understand why she is so hesitant to meet him in person. His confusion deepens when he finds out she has sent him a fake photo; he is not happy. With his job as director of the summer camp looming, he decides to give the elusive Morgan some space.
Morgan is devastated when she realizes she has probably blown things with Jackson. The desperate young woman hatches a plan to get to know him secretly. She pretends to be her own mother and books herself into Sunnyvale Summer Camp under the name of Alyssa King, using her sister’s birth certificate. What will happen when Jackson finds out?
Wanna Check out the Camp? Come on...
Jackson stood and walked around to her side of the desk. “Stand up.”
“What are you doing?” Morgan’s eyes were wide with disbelief but she did as he asked.
“Bend over the desk.” He moved his things out of the way and stood back while she bent over. “Stay there.”
“What are you going to do? You can’t really mean to spank me, not here. Someone will hear you!” Morgan shifted nervously, her fingers automatically tugging at the frayed hem of her shorts.
“They won’t because you will not make a sound. You are going to take what you have coming to you and you are going to be completely silent. Not one little whimper because you know you deserve every single lick.” Jackson was angry and he had to decide what to do but there was no way he could even think straight until he’d metered out at least some punishment. It was nothing compared to what he wanted to do but he had to bear in mind there were kids on the property and for the most part he had to concentrate on them. This bottom warming would have to be quick and sharp.
“But I?” Morgan squirmed uncomfortably.
“The only butt I’m interested in is the one I’m about to punish. Stay in that position and wait.” He was surprised that she did as he told her. Jackson locked his office door and walked through to his adjoining sleeping quarters to find something to spank her with. He needed something with maximum sting and yet whisper quiet. He had to remember that as far as the other councillors knew, he was holed up in here with a teenage girl. If they heard any kind of slap they could call the police and both of them could end up in jail. He took a belt out of his closet, folded it and cracked it across his palm. The sting was considerable but it was not noiseless. Could he use a rubber flip-flop? Nope, the slapping sound was distinctive and quite loud. Finally he grabbed the tilt wand from the blinds and flicked it across his hand. Perfect. It packed a good sting and was completely silent.
When he walked back into the office he was pleased to see that Morgan hadn’t moved. That was something. So her name was Morgan King. At least he could put a name, face and very soon, smacked bottom to the person he’d been talking to, at last.
“What’s that?” Morgan asked, her head shooting around and her jaw dropping with shock when she saw what he was holding.
“Bend back over.” He pressed her down slightly and pulled at her light shorts until they were buried within her crease. This left a pleasing amount of her naked butt cheeks on show.
“I’m scared,” Morgan whimpered into her arm.
“Good, you deserve to be scared.”
“I’m sorry Jackson, I really am.”
Jackson had to steel himself. “I’m going to spank your sassy, dishonest behind hard with this, plastic whatever it is, because you have put both of us at risk of being in terrible trouble with the law. You haven’t even had a criminal record check. My brother and sister in-law could lose their business. All because you didn’t think about anyone but yourself.”
“And I’m not a criminal!”
“I didn’t say you were but it is against the law to work with kids without the proper checks.”
“I just wanted to get to know you.” Morgan was crying and he hadn’t even smacked her yet.
“There were better ways than this to get to know me.”
“I can see that now!”
“Hush,” he whispered.
Jackson raised his hand and brought the fiery little stick down hard across both plump cheeks. He would have loved for the first time he spanked this woman to have been with his hand. He wanted nothing more than to feel those soft cheeks ripple beneath his bare hand. He so wanted to hear the satisfying clap of flesh meeting flesh. He brought his chosen gadget down again, a little lower than the first pink line.
“Please Jackson,” Morgan begged quietly. “It hurts.”
“It’s not supposed to tickle Morgan. Honestly, you are so lucky that I can’t give you exactly what you deserve or you would be getting a thorough hand spanking followed by a few licks of my belt.”
“I’ll do anything you want if you stop, please.”
The whippy little plastic rod danced up and down her soft white flesh and she was dancing on her toes to ease the sting. “Keep still Alyssa,” he whispered. “You know you deserve this.”
“But it burns—and my name is Morgan.”
“Good, I hope it keeps on burning Morgan.” He hoisted her up by a handful of shorts and made sure he covered the area that usually remained hidden in the crease. He didn’t want the effects of this spanking to wear off too soon. Finally he put the wand down on the desk and pulled her shorts back into place to cover her bottom. She looked adorable; both hands were rubbing her sore bottom while she stood there with her messy hair and her tear stained cheeks looking completely contrite. He wanted nothing more than to hug her and kiss away her tears.
“That hurt.”
“I hope so honey.” He pulled her against him for their first ever, real hug and he had to admit, it felt good to hold Morgan in his arms, if only it was under better circumstances. “Enough, I need to figure out what to do next.”
“What are we gonna do?”
“Good question and when I decide I’ll let you know.”
“Fine, don't let me interrupt your thoughts on what I am going to be doing.”
“Hush Morgan, I need to decide quickly what to do about this,” Jackson said. “Whitney is going to be expecting me to have you removed.”
“Oh well we have to do what makes Whitney happy.”
“What do you mean happy? This isn’t about making Whitney happy it’s about Whitney knowing what the rules are and expecting me to follow them.”
“Does she even know what was in the bag?”
“No, I asked her to bring it to me. Councillors don’t have the authority to search bags.” He was starting to realize that they were the only two that knew about any of this.
“This is about me. At least I should have a bit of a say about what we do next.”
“Deciding what’s the right thing for everyone though isn’t easy and I’m the adult here.”
“I am an adult.”
“And you have demonstrated that so well.”
I know, right? You just have to buy it now!
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Monday, August 15, 2016
ISLAND LIFE... AT ITS KINKIEST
Today I have a Wonderful Treat
Tabitha Black
USA Today Best Selling Author
with her newest book
RESTRAINT
out for a LIMITED TIME ONLY!
Will be available on Kindle Unlimited/Amazon only for 90 days from publication
Love. Lust. Limits.
Sir Simeon Harvey has realized his lifelong ambition: to build a BDSM resort on a private island off the Australian coast.
At last Nox Oasis, with its grand apartments, exclusive membership, and very own kinky theme park, is opening its doors to guests for the first time.
George and Faye have been especially invited by Sir Simeon himself to celebrate the official opening. Having lost the spark in their marriage, they hope to rediscover their one time passion. What they don't expect is for Simeon to make them an offer they can't refuse.
Hazel Jenkins can't believe her luck when she lands the plum job as head receptionist for the Oasis. While she has no experience in the BDSM realm herself, she's fascinated by the whole idea.
Her initiation into Sir Simeon's world is as shocking as it is arousing, and when she meets his godson, Dain Wilcott, the handsome American Dom, she knows just whom she wants to explore her kinky side with.
The question is, does he feel the same way about her?
Publisher's Note: This book contains explicit sexual and BDSM-related themes, including MFM ménage, and mild breath play. If such material is likely to offend you, please do not purchase.
Purchase Link: https://www.amazon.com/Tabitha-Black/e/B00FADLNLC/
HERE is a TEASER:
"Nox Oasis is no place for wallflowers, Miss Jenkins," Simeon went on in his deep, gravelly voice. "As my head receptionist, you're going to be confronted by all manner of things on a daily basis. I built this place because I wanted to create a kinky playground; somewhere for people to come and be themselves, no matter what form that may take. There's still far too much prejudice against BDSM out there in the vanilla world—people think it's all whips and chains and nothing else." He sighed. "I can't have prejudiced staff—"
"I'm not prejudiced!" she blurted out before she could stop herself.
He smiled. "I know that, sweetheart. I hadn't finished yet."
"S-sorry, Sir."
"I also can't have anyone on my team who is easily shocked, or overwhelmed by what they might see or hear." He frowned. "I've been to too many BDSM clubs where sex isn't allowed. It's ridiculous. Everyone buggers off before midnight; a man gives his girl a flogging and they're turned on so much they have to rush home to fuck instead of being able to do it right there, while they're still in the moment, while their juices are still flowing, so to speak."
"I understand," she said.
"Good. So the idea behind this place is that anything goes, so long as it's all within the principles of R.A.C.K."
"Rack?"
"Risk aware, consensual kink. It's also why we have such an involved and arduous vetting process. Means that, once they get here, our visitors can relax and have fun knowing that everyone else is on the same page."
There was a pause. Hazel wasn't sure what to say, but she was glad the conversation had turned away from what was going on between her thighs.
Author Bio:
USA Today bestselling author Tabitha Black has been writing erotic spanking fiction for over a decade, mostly in the ageplay and historical genres. More recently, she's discovered the joys of writing more contemporary, edgier books with a greater emphasis on BDSM – one of which, Sharing Silver, has been nominated for a Golden Flogger award and won the Spanking Romance Reviews award for best ménage 2015.
Having lived in four countries on three different continents, and been an active participant in her local kinky communities, she likes to "write to discover what she knows". Her own personal kinks include anything and everything to do with spanking, fireplay, edge play, scarification, age-play, and too many more to count. Some girls like wood, some adore leather, but Tabitha is partial to big, shiny, ornate knives… nothing else makes her quite as weak at the knees.
She lives in Europe with her Daddy/Sir, and a lilac cat who likes to sneeze in her face. She has a weakness for great cappuccino; strong, dominant, kind but brutally sadistic men (and counts herself amazingly lucky to have found one in real life); brilliant books, and tattoos.
Tabitha loves getting mail, so if you want to drop her a line, please do so at tabitha_black@hotmail.com. You can also check out her blog here, follow her on Twitter @BlushingTabitha, Instagram, or join her Facebook page. Thank you for reading!
Tuesday, August 2, 2016
I Want To Devour You...
LOOK! Its MEASHA STONE!!!
Can you believe she is here? On my Blog???
She is bringing us a taste of her newest book-in the series WINDY SERIES
Indebted Heart
Book #3
Ask me to button your shirt. Look at those BLUE EYES! That SMILE!!
YES Ma'am that is nice!!!
UH! UH! UH!
Lets get to know Measha first:
Author Questions
So first, of course, the obvious question. How did you become a writer? I’ve been doing it since I was a little kid. I didn’t really think anything of it until my mom pointed it out to me much later. In Junior High we had to write a short story for the open house, and all the other kid’s stories were one page, a few paragraphs, mine was the only one that took two pages and had dialogue and everything. She knew then I was going to be a writer. When she told me that story, I figured, hey, she’s right! Silly, that I needed someone else to say it in order for me to know it, but writing stories was just something I did for fun, to entertain myself.
Are you working on a new book right now? Yes. I’m working on a dark erotic romance. My first ever, and it’s terrifying to write because it pulls me out of my comfort zone of completely consensual spankings, and sexual encounters. On the other hand, it’s completely hot and exciting, so it’s a daily roller coaster ride.
How much of the book is realistic? Hopefully, all of it. With this series, I tried to convey as true of a BDSM relationship as I could. People make mistakes, ego’s get in the way, and being in a BDSM relationship doesn’t change that- but how those issues are worked out is what’s different. There’s a lot of love and trust that goes into a BDSM relationship, and I wanted to convey that with this series. It’s not all red rooms and tainted pasts.
What book are you reading now? I’m reading 3 books right now. Seven Nights to Surrender by Jeannete Grey. The Truth about Him by M. O’Keefe and Taming Texanna by Alyssa Bailey.
Name one entity that you feel supported you outside of family members. Blushing Authors have been a huge help, especially with this release. Everyone is so helpful and genuine. It’s been a great experience and hopefully the first of many.
What do you like to do when you’re not writing? I still have a day job, but in the off hours, if I’m not writing, or thinking about writing, I’m usually curled up with a book. If my kids happen to actually be home instead of off playing with friends, we’ll spend time together watching old sitcoms on Netflix, or having a family game night.
Does Prince Charming exist? Yes! Everyone’s version of what he looks like is different, but he’s out there. For some, he’s an Alpha male that won’t give an inch and is unreasonably strict, to other’s he writes poetry and sings her sonnets- and anything in between. I lean toward the relentless Alpha myself, and have been lucky in that department.
Which body part would you choose to get a tattoo done? I celebrated my first book with Blushing Books by getting a tattoo of a heart on my right wrist. I’m planning to get two more, another heart design on my ankle, and one on the top of my foot the words “Happily Ever After”.
The furthest I have traveled was to: Germany. My husband was in the Army when we married and was stationed in Darmstadt, Germany. It was a great time, even though I was far away from family and friends. I was sad to hear the base has been shut down since then.
Do you like your handwriting? Absolutely not! My father always called it chicken scratch, and I have to agree. It’s horrible. I have a love/hate feeling when someone asks me to sign their book, because it’s just so bad.
AUTHOR BIO
Measha Stone lives in the western suburbs of Chicago with her husband and their children. She is a member of Romance Writers of America, and graduated Summa Cum Laude with a degree in Creative Writing from Southern New Hampshire University. Her vanilla writing has been published in the online magazine efiction and the DuPage Writers Group annual journal Possibilities. When she’s not writing, she’s reading and spending time with her kids- who are just as creative and crazy as her.
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NOW... the Blurb
Alyssa Sanders has taken care of herself since she was too young to do so. But she’s all grown up and ready to get her life on the right track. She heads to Chicago with her life savings and a few prospects. She expects to get a job, find an apartment and get on her way of settling down. What she doesn’t expect is to find her new boss not only severely attractive and Dominant, but the son of an old friend.
Alex Trebelli would do anything for his father, so when he’s asked to escort an old friend’s daughter to dinner he doesn’t hesitate to agree. Except the daughter isn’t the small town young woman his father described. She’s all grown up, full of beauty and curves, and a submissive nature that draws out his dominant side.
When Alex explains he won’t be her friend, he can’t just be her friend, he wants more, he wants to be her dominant, her boyfriend, she has to decide if she’s going to take the leap. She’s never been good at a full time D/s relationship, but Alex makes her feel safe and secure. She finds him easy to be with, even when he’s being overprotective and bossy.
Can she manage to put aside her fears of failure, and self-doubt and give them a real chance, or will she chose the safer route and keep clear of his sexy smile, and dominant ways?
HERE is an EXCERPT: NAH NAH- I got to read them all>>>
"For two weeks you've toyed with me." He rested his hands on his belt buckle, the movement not lost on her. "You've stared at me, you've winked at me, you've smiled at me, you've been a complete brat with me." He stared at her; she didn't move.
"Are you a brat usually?" he asked as an afterthought. He knew a few doms that liked their subs to be bratty, to give a reason to spank them for fun. Alex was not one of them. He'd rather have a straight on conversation. If his partner wanted a spanking, she needed only to ask, he was always happy to oblige.
"No." She shook her head and averted her eyes. "But, it was fun to tease you." She looked up at him then. "I knew you couldn't or wouldn't do anything about it. It was weird. The more I teased you and the more you did nothing, the more I wanted to tease you, to push you." She took a deep breath. "I've never done that before with a guy."
"What about Thomas?" He asked in a low voice. He hadn't meant to bring him up, but before his brain could catch up to the conversation it was out.
Her eyes narrowed as she answered. "Bradley really has a big mouth."
"That he does." Alex agreed. "Now about Thomas."
"Thomas is an ex. I'm sure you have quite a few of them." She stepped around him and plopped down on the couch.
"Yes, but he's not just an ex, is he?"
"Alex, he was my first dominant. He was the guy that showed me what being submissive means. He helped me figure out what I needed and wanted." Alyssa looked up at him as she spoke. "And what is that? Because I'm going to be honest, Alyssa. I can't get you out of my head. I won't do the friend thing with you. I just won't." He shook his head. "And I won't do the vanilla thing either. I tried that once, had a serious relationship and it all went to hell. I hated it, she hated it, and I won't try it again." He crouched onto his haunches in front of her. "I see you at the club, and I want to devour you. The friend thing won't work."
Her eyes swept over his face several times, and she exhaled loudly. "I want you," she finally said and he began to breathe again. "I've hated the past few weeks, seeing you and not being able to talk to you the way I wanted to talk to you. As soon as I walked into a room, I'd find you instinctively. It was really starting to piss me off." She grinned. "I don't do vanilla well either. I end up being a bitch to see how far I can push the guy until he pushes back." "Like you've been doing with me." He nodded.
"Yeah." She closed her eyes for a moment, and when she opened them they were filled with tears. "I'm really bad at asking for what I need," she whispered. "You were just so, so, there." She wiped her eye with the inside of her palm before the tear could fall. "I think it just frightened me. I mean I didn't expect to meet anyone especially not anyone within the first day of being in the city. Your dad never told me how freaking hot you are." She laughed, the sound made him grin up at her.
"I'm not your boss at work. Kerri is and Bradley is. I'm the finance and marketing guy." He rested his hands on her knees, her skin felt warm beneath his hands. Soft. "But here, outside of the job, I'm all boss." He winked and grinned up at her.
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ALSO IN THE WINDY CITY SERIES
HIDDEN HEART, BOOK 1
A woman given up on love, second guesses her solitary life when meeting a man who won’t take no for an answer and opens her eyes to an entire world of pleasure she didn’t know existed before him.
SECURED HEART, BOOK 2
A headstrong, fiery woman seeks to fulfill her fantasies in all the wrong places, and it’s up to the security expert to tame her, and keep her safe.
Tuesday, June 28, 2016
HERO TO OBEY
Hero to Obey: Twenty-two Naughty Military Romance Stories by multiple authorsMy rating: 5 of 5 stars
Review Hero to Obey
I was raised in a military home with a Vietnam Vet, married my 82nd Airborne paratrooper Dom and raised our children under the devotion and love of country. I have two children who have had tours in Iraq and other exotically scary places. We experience PTSD, Children have married and divorced because of emotional conflicts harder to handle than the battles they fought on foreign soil. The publisher and authors are donating the proceeds to help these same people win the personal battles they fight on American soil. I am proud to have bought, read, and to review this collection.
Stormy Weather by Desiree Holt
Zane’s captain said he needed 30 days to “sort out his head” after his Afghanistan tour. He didn’t need anyone, not his BDSM lifestyle, his submissive who dumped him, not the human race and certainly not Dara whom he had to save from drowning in a heavy tropical storm. Dara is that thing that could give Zane direction again if he only could see it. I loved the struggle that Zane went through to find his way to living again. Contemporary BDSM, active duty-medical leave
SEAL of her Dreams by Paige Tyler
Kurt was a SEAL and when saving the day at Career day for his deployed buddy’s son. Fire play came from all sides. Oh, man did he need extraction. The teacher, Melissa, was a sexy cute thing that didn’t throw him a life ring. She didn’t even like him. He was in the shark tank alone and they sharks were circling. I loved this one because of its humanizing of a SEAL. It also was fun to watch him work for the love of one of America’s unsung heroes, a teacher. Contemporary, active duty
Their Runaway Bride by Vanessa Vale
Robert and Andrew have returned from serving in the military in a country (near Egypt) that commonly have two men to one woman so the woman is always cared for if one is killed. The world in the 1800’s is a wild place all over the world. Onboard a ship headed for America they meet other military of similar slant as well as a lovely young woman, Anne, who takes their eye. They want her. She appears in Robert’s room and within one day they have bedded, married, and taken possession of her. Her father had other plans and is furious but a good military man knows how to use his skills to advantage. Good, fun into to the series. Ménage, Historic, Prequel, ex-military.
Under His Command by Maddie Taylor
A novella in the L.A. branch of Club Decadence, this story takes us to Coronado –SEAL training, Commander Flynn and the simulator operator, Cassie. Cassie is in love with the Commander and his dominant ways, but she feels it is a hopeless love because he is the consummate gentleman and they have a great friendship going. I love we get both sides of the story instead of only getting into the head of one of our main characters. Contemporary, Active Duty,
Understanding the Enemy by Tabitha Black
This was is a fantasy/Scifi story of Blaze the man who must interrogate those Sandrine who would try to sabotage the hateful Saxo’s. Lena is caught trying to seal secrets for the militia. Blaze is expected to torture her and his settled on method is unique. Lena has something Blaze wants more than anything. I am not a fantasy reader but this I was able to read easily. Well written. Edgy, Dystopian, a little dark-HEA
Exfil by Bethany Burke
This story is set in the contemporary/future realm of war torn Syria. Military personnel are asked all the time to do what appears to the civilian to be the impossible. What if you were Delta force and were asked to go in and rescue an ex-lover you never forgot? And what if you found out a secret that could destroy the world and both of yours along with it, and then you were asked to do the unthinkable? Captain Michael Duncan is that man and Emily Becker that lover. My husband would like it. Well written. I could see this happening in my mind’s eye. Contemporary, Active military, edgy
Wrecked by Selena Kitt
Daniel was ex-Navy SEAL now living off the coast of Chili alone. He answers a faint mayday call to find overindulged heiress Darcy with some grand problems. And neither one knows how to communicate effectively verbally. Physically is another story. Hot sex, good emotional back and forth-Story stalls only momentarily. The ending is well played. Contemporary, ex-military, angst
Devil Dog by Lee Savino
Nice story of Cassandra, newly divorcee and Devil Dog Dane, medically discharged Marine. I enjoyed this story because it wasn’t just a story about some ex-military who was stuck in time and place. It was as I know them, trying to find a place in this world that they are now presented with. Dane was the absolute sweetest and Cassandra was disillusioned, more than Dane. Contemporary, Sweet, medically discharged, HEA.
Call Sign: Thunder by Livia Grant
This story was well written about “a miracle” with notorious one night stand Marine Pilot Zach’s and U.S. Senator’s daughter Allison. Zach was called to pilot a mission that went all wrong, or did it? Allison was kidnapped in Columbia. She was not the mission. This story had suspense and drama, angst and an HEA. Two worlds collide and the explosions are real and the ending leaves you feeling so good, you have to read this. The U.S. Marine Corps and U.S. Senators get out of the way for true love. Contemporary, Suspense HEA, active duty
A Hero in Disguise by Alta Hensley
Jessa is in a wild loop of craziness and then she is kidnapped to breed. Decker claims her. I was curious and confused at the beginning of this but I could see it was cleverly written when I finished the story for it all came together. Arian-like, Military ops, baby factory-like modern Hitlerism. Gotta read this. Rather dystopian in a real world setting. Hmm, just read it, it will all make sense after you do. Contemporary/dystopian? (oxymoronic, I know), active military, suspense, HEA
A Soldier to Cry On by Abbie Adams
Tony is on medical leave and as his memory comes back he finds he needs to complete the circle on a dying soldier in another bed says, “I’m sorry Frankie.” Thinking he needs to give the last words and find out who this Frankie is he finds her and things aren’t at all as he thinks they should be. Two people who lost parts of themselves find new parts in this sweet story about the casualties of war. Written in first person for both characters but uniquely done. Medical leave military, contemporary, sweet.
The SEAL’s Captive Bride by Sue Lyndon
This story is set in the not too distant future. Earth’s society has been flip upside down and new communities are forming. Self-sufficient, war torn, hyper-protected communities. There are renegades that destroy and pillage everything. Ally needs food, Rick is ex-SEAL that is now a protector of one of the coveted communities. What happens next is really sweet and heart-warming. Again, fantasy/dystopian isn’t what I normally pick up but glad I read this. Engaging characters, moments of suspenseful, fun read, Ex-military.
Her Captain’s Command by Isabella Kole
Story of lost love found between Cmdr Rogers and Lt. Cmdr Vandecamp. The six month shipboard is realistic and his responses to her strong capabilities is well done. I loved the dominance of Rogers and yet his ability to accept her professional abilities. Dom/sub nirvana. Navy, contemporary, easy, flowing read
In His Hands by Maggie Ryan
1943. War pen pals. Ration cards. Petticoats. I don’t read much in this time period but I loved this story between naïve Betsy and her inherited pen pal Jack. Jack believes in Domestic Discipline. Betsy is a good girl and when naughty girlfriend Jane offers her pen pal to Betsy, well, a love story begins. Realistic and heartwarming, this was true for so many men and women during this time in our history. I loved it. I felt so good at “the end”. Historic, War Bride, Domestic Discipline
Worth Fighting For by Zoe Blake
Connor needs sleep during his return from Afghanistan. The guy in the next apartment obviously needed to learn how to treat a woman because two were there tearing it up. Connor stepped into the commotion and met Sage in all her feisty glory. Then Sage gives Connor a bogus phone number and the game is on. The story goes on from there. They are a dynamic couple and I enjoyed this story completely. Fun, light hearted, Sweet. Contemporary, active military.
Enticement by Sierra Cartwright
Pierce is on weekend pass to help his mother’s event and Ella works at the country club and is friends with his sister. Ella is looking for a long term BDSM relationship. Pierce enjoys ‘playing’ but not committing to BDSM relationships. I loved how they worked together to meet the other’s needs even while he showed Ella what she could do. A good read. I think this is very likely happening today in some part of the country. Contemporary, active duty, BDSM, fun-loving
Aim for Pleasure by Yasmine Hyde
Kerrigan works for the commander but is getting out of the military to run her own business and this is her going away party. Stepping out for air, she meets Jaxon and it was a one night stand- standing up against the wall… OH man HOT. They were a steamy couple and I loved the interaction between the two. Fun, light, military was back story as with most, at little dominance, a lot of hot. Contemorary.
Passing Through by Alexa Day
Noah, ex Ranger, barback for Gigi bar owner. He working summer before going on to Florida and a fishing boat crew for a buddy. This one was different in where Gigi is the aggressor and the more dominant in bedroom. Well written. Characters are engaging. I am not as much into female domme as male dominants but story had plenty of sexual tension. Contemporary, ex military
With One Hand Behind My Back by Cerise Noble
This one I have seen in living color with variations with my military exposure and I loved it. It was so real. Drew and Irene fall in love. Drew is dominant and believes in Domestic Discipline and it does do something to Irene’s libido. Drew says it isn’t her choice and Irene eventually gives in but she is one strong woman. And that makes it more beautiful. But their moves, money issues, lack of jobs at new duty stations, deployment, and then when tragedy hits, what it will take to survive it and when it looks like they won’t. I cried because I KNOW THEM and so many others like them. Contemporary, Domestic Discipline, Active duty, War. Read this one!! All us military wives need to read this and nod in understanding. It raced a bit and would have loved full book.
Owned by the Marine by Renee Rose
Medically discharged Marine Sergeant Rob Gentry met, cute but not in his future plans if he had any, Kaitlyn, his next door neighbor. She made an unfortunate error in judgement and almost died. She might have if it weren’t for Rob. They explore some BDSM lite and domestic discipline, she helps him come back from the soul killing “survivor’s guilt” and he shows her that she can have a wonderful life with all she wanted. I loved this story. It was heartwarming and highlighted the “now I have been injured and can’t do what I was trained to do-what is left?” The horrible pain when ones coworkers of any walk of life are killed leaving a sole survivor.
Bound by the Captain by Kate Richards
One with the USCG. Finally. I was raised a Coastie’s kid, during Nixon and lived in Alaska. I enjoyed reading about Captain/Dr. Mark King and Russian beauty, Dr. Anya Vanikova in search of the Sea Serpent. She was in search of “the one” dom and he was a dom. Countries that distrusted each other. I loved it when the Captain’s head was in his “toy drawer”. Lots of sexual tension and D/s and edgy BDSM, suspense. Nixon era, Cold war, Active duty, D/s.
A Little Love by Maren Smith
Nolan and Tricia. Okay, I don’t laugh in books easily but I died laughing in the first scene. And it only got better from there. Nolan left the Army after 15 years and he needed to find a project to “lose himself in”. He bought a house, and found himself lost in two projects renovations and new relationships. I enjoyed descriptions in this story, so vivid. “hello darkness my old friend” oh, yeah. D/l and so sweet and cute. DD/ls, contemporary, ex-military and fun.
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I wasn't your dominant before
Jane Henry and Maisy Archer have come to visit me...
...just before we celebrate Independence Day in the United States. and a time to visit with friends and family to enjoy and appreciated the hard won freedoms we enjoy at a nation.
Another thing to enjoy this weekend???
A new Book, HIS SUBMISSIVE they have coauthored is out!!! Book 2 in the standalone book series Boston Doms
These talented women have spice, love, exploration, and lots of Hot Hot Hot for your summer reading list.
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Now, read this scorching excerpt!
“…What have I told you about arguing with me?"
Hillary stifled a sigh. They'd had this discussion a lot in the past two days, and she really ought to know better by now. She cast her eyes down.
"That it's disrespectful. I'm sorry, sir," she said meekly.
"Mm-hmm. Finish getting dressed," he told her.
"I'm finished!" she replied. "Just need to grab my purse." She tried to scoot past him into the hallway, but he wouldn't move.
"That is what you're wearing?" he growled, his eyes roving over her.
Hillary looked down at herself. She was wearing a navy blue sundress with spaghetti straps that crossed in the back, and a frilly, A-line skirt that hit her at mid-thigh. Paired with her flat silver sandals, it was perfectly appropriate for the unseasonably hot September day... Wasn't it?
"Um... yes?" she ventured.
"Um... no," he said firmly, crossing his arms over his chest. "That looks like the... what do you
call it? The thing you wear under the dress," he told her. "It's too fucking sexy. Put something else on."
She frowned. "Matt, I don't have anything else. This is the only dress I brought with me."
"Are you arguing again?" he demanded.
"No! I'm just trying to explain," she told him honestly. "I've worn this before, lots of times, and
She broke off when he took a step forward, crowding her against the wall.
"But I wasn't your dominant before, Hillary," he reminded her, his left hand coming up to cup her
cheek and hold her in place.
The way he said her name—her full name—in that deep, serious voice made her nipples tighten. She pressed her head and shoulders back against the wall.
"Yes, sir," she breathed.
"Do you see how revealing this is? Hmm?" His right hand traced a line from her throat, across her collarbone, and down. Hillary swallowed.
"Do you see how fucking sexy you are?" he demanded.
God, what had gotten into him? Please don't stop, she begged with her mind.
His eyes were focused on his index finger as it dipped just below the edge of her dress and traced a path across the swell of her breast.
"Do you see how just the slightest touch," he whispered, his words fanning heat across her sensitive skin, "could make this happen?" He hooked his finger around one spaghetti strap and slid it down her shoulder. "Do you want this to happen, Hillary?"
Oh. Yes.
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Jane has been writing since her early teens, dabbling in short stories and poetry. When she married and began having children, her pen was laid to rest for several years, until the National Novel Writing Challenge (NaNoWriMo) in 2010 awakened in her the desire to write again. That year, she wrote her first novel, and has been writing ever since. In 2012, she became interested in the d/s lifestyle, and has discovered her love for writing romance with a d/s twist. With a houseful of children, she finds time to write in the early hours of the morning, squirreled away with a laptop, blanket, and cup of hot coffee. Years ago, she heard the wise advice, “Write the book you want to read,” and has taken it to heart. She sincerely hopes you also enjoy the books she likes to read.
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Maisy is an unabashed book nerd who has been in love with romance since reading her first Julie Garwood novel at the tender age of 12. After a decade as a technical writer, she finally made the leap into writing fiction several years ago and has never looked back. Like her other great loves - coffee, caramel, beach vacations, yoga pants, and her amazing family - her love of words has only continued to grow... in a manner inversely proportional to her love of exercise, house cleaning, and large social gatherings. She loves to hear from fellow romance lovers, and is always on the hunt for her next great read.
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Saturday, June 18, 2016
A dominant does not mean...
I thought I would just ramble a bit today. Tomorrow is Father’s Day and I wanted to say a few things about misconceptions. While each relationship is different there are somethings that are not always understood.
In my world, I don't call my spouse my dom. He doesn't need it and neither do I. We play at home, not a club or small group. We are intimate. In my world a dominant, my dominant, is the Head of Household (HOH). Period. For us it has always been a natural way of life and I don't even think about it.It is easy and takes arguing away.
Honestly, it was just what we did without rules, guidelines, and a lot of plain trial and error. We aren't patterning ourselves after any specific group. Some clever people call it THIS THING WE DO and that is what I have loved to call it ever since learning the phrase.
Here are some things I have learned in our marriage that has lasted over 35 years.
In my world, I don't call my spouse my dom. He doesn't need it and neither do I. We play at home, not a club or small group. We are intimate. In my world a dominant, my dominant, is the Head of Household (HOH). Period. For us it has always been a natural way of life and I don't even think about it.It is easy and takes arguing away.
Honestly, it was just what we did without rules, guidelines, and a lot of plain trial and error. We aren't patterning ourselves after any specific group. Some clever people call it THIS THING WE DO and that is what I have loved to call it ever since learning the phrase.
Here are some things I have learned in our marriage that has lasted over 35 years.
A dominant man does NOT mean:
- Rough, man-handling in the bedroom unless his partner really asks, verbally, for it and even then, increase in small measured quantities
- What we say when we are aroused can be easily misinterpreted if a man is not well versed in his partner’s needs, things could go awry quickly
- On the flip side, if she has established what level of intensity in play that she/he likes, don’t frustrate them by not fulfilling that need unless it is part of the game
- Making all the decisions both in the bedroom and outside of it.
- Some dominants enjoy all the control in the bedroom but contrary to the most exciting book you have read, they do enjoy their partner initiating things sometimes and enjoy reciprocal affection initiated by their partner.
- Make the decisions you can but confer when needed.
- They are ON all the time. Many or even most dominants want a capable partner if they are together outside of play because making all the decisions just sucks the life out of anyone.
- That being said, it is a huge red flag if you need to “clear” a normal daily task with your dominant. This is outside of play and okay if agreed upon but there are limits. Both should be comfortable where they are set.
- They are perfect. Of course, they make mistakes. They make plenty and should know how to apologize and if there is something needed to correct the mistake. All done without shifting responsibility.
- They also expect the same from you. If either of you have difficulty owning up to human error, may I suggest working on that.
- They are mind readers.
- You want something, need something, experienced something, tell him, talk to him, be available to him. He can grasp many things but your thoughts, while may be easy to guess at times, is just that, a guess unless you have told him.
- They are self-sustaining. They are human and as such, are needy beings. We all need love, reinforcement, to be allowed vulnerabilities and life hurts us all sometimes.
- Be the person you want him to be for you. While they often know what to do, they want to do it with you. And need you as much as you need them.
- You are his door mat, his puppet, his computer animation.
- You are his partner, someone he should be proud of and if you do not have pride in yourself, it is difficult for him to continually boost you up. If self-esteem is a big issue for you, find a counselor to help you gain that self-love. It works both ways.
- You do all the work both physically and emotionally, while he drinks a beer and watches the game.
- If he cares for you and what you have together, he will do his best to share the load. Lovingly.
- He barges in, takes over, and runs every show. He can't fix it all, save it all, orchestrate it all. All the time. Don't expect it and don't ask it of him.
- It’s all about sex, because it isn’t. It is all about everything. The way he loves, cherishes and respects you as well as expects those same things from you as an expected way of life.